Going beyond the unseen, unsaid, and unwritten to become the change we wish to see in the world

I am intimately familiar with the wounds that drive us. The truths we’ve been trained to deny. The gifts we’ve been shamed into hiding. The wings we’ve been gaslit into clipping. Power we’ve been programmed to give away. So here’s the thing.

Every day, I am deeply inspired by so many women in my circle. The energy that’s exuding from their presence is fierce. Unstoppable!

And there’s the unseen. The unsaid. Unwritten.

There’s this other side to those mission-driven momma-bears. Trailblazers. Women leaders…

The side of us we were trained to hide.

To mask.

To deny.

And to simply self-gaslight our way through it.

I am talking about the fact that it’s getting progressively harder to be all, do all, and give all.

That women as a collective, working moms especially, we are not OK.

Behind our brave smiles and warm hugs hides deep exhaustion. Fear (for our fundamental human rights, safety of our families). Guilt (for wanting more and wanting it to be better). Shame (for not being content with what is). And the list goes on…

It breaks my heart to see just how easy it is to shit all over a female founder/employee/stay-at-home-mom who bravely opened up about her struggles to keep up with her business/work/well-being/[fill in the blanks] because of the lack of childcare options/pay/leave/healthcare/….

It breaks my heart to read the amount of “Well, if I could do it so can you…” responses to her pleading for a systemic change.

It breaks my heart to hear her being called socialist or communist or freeloader or lazy for wanting the equality, equity, dignity, respect, and support she’s entitled to.

And — it fires me up!

See, I’ve been working from home for 11+ years now with little ones in tow. It’s been my husband and me. No family. No nannies. And limited daycare later on.

I’ve leveraged the insane drive, work ethic, time mastery, and agility of an elite athlete. And even that wasn’t enough.

By the time I’ve had more than I could have ever asked for by the age of 30…I burned out and had to unlearn and undo and reset in order to rebuild.

And from supporting fellow female visionary action-takers (in various capacities — as their business manager, strategic consultant, as well as their business, mindset, life coach, and healer)…

…I am intimately familiar with the wounds that drive us.

The truths we’ve been trained to deny.

The gifts we’ve been shamed into hiding.

The wings we’ve been gaslit into clipping.

Power we’ve been programmed to give away.

And that’s nothing new.

So here’s the thing.

How we all engage in making these (subtle, massive, and trans-generational) changes, and the role each one of us plays, it all differs.

Some of us march the streets.

Some of us fundraise.

Some legislate.

Some educate.

Some inspire.

Some hold space.

And pretty much everything in between.

Fueled by my Soul’s mission to inspire & empower these women, I’ve invested 25+ years of my own life to master the tools, teachings, and skills I now leverage in our work together.

I’ve walked through the fires and dark nights of the soul so that I can I help my clients unleash their primal power, to harmonize their home, and to realize the fullest potential of their work/business — I help them bring their boldest vision and the most audacious goals to life.

Frequently this requires us to dismantle what there is, in order to reimagine and reconfigure the possible in new, aligned, more wholesome ways.

Frequently this requires us to ditch the tried-and-true strategies and processes in order to skip the unnecessary in-between steps and make quantum leaps.

Frequently this requires us to dissolve old beliefs, habits in order to clear the path and step into & imbibe vibrational certainty.

From there, pretty much anything and everything become possible. Specifically the expansion of all that matters to each one of my clients. In themselves. At home. At work. In relationships. In business. In life.

And since most of my clients are moms, just like myself, we take the no-bullshit path of least resistance as we play in the multidimensional spheres of envisioning and designing creative & duplicatable solutions that transcend time, borders, and cultures.

As you might know, I took this past summer off. I needed space. Silence. And stillness. It was a scary decision that I’ve been postponing for years!

But it was very much needed! It’s how my own capacities were able to expand so that I am now able to show up and serve on a whole new level.

Look, I know that asking for help is not easy.

Actually, being able to truly receive it can be even harder.

But what I know to be the hardest thing, is to stare at the reflection in a mirror you no longer recognize…

Seeing the fire in your eyes and feeling the calling of your soul but not answering it out of fear (or comfortable habit)…

Being fully aware of your potential and not getting out of your own way to seize it…

Watching as the world you live in becomes increasingly more disconnected from what you know it to be, and not having the capacity (and audacity) to do something about it.

Certain things require their own timing. And others simply require a decision.

Originally published by Sara Oblak Speicher, MBA MCC via LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com.